If your car’s fuel tank is empty, your car will not take you to your destination. Just like your car, you have a destination (your life goals) that you need to get to. Grit or resilience is the fuel for your life goals. It is the sole driver of achievement and success.
Grit is passion and perseverance for your long-term and meaningful goals. Grit helps you build resilience to go on when you feel like giving up.
Characteristics of resilient people
Resilient people are courageous
As Anais Nin once said ‘your life shrinks or expands in direct proportion to your courage.’ If you’re not courageous enough to apply for that job, college degree, walk away from toxic people or start that business that you’re passionate about, your life will shrink. The more courage you have, the more you build your resilience which makes your life expand exponentially.
In order to be courageous, you need to manage your fear of failure. There are valuable lessons in defeat. Go ahead and dare to pursue your dreams, experience failure and see yourself come out of it stronger and courageous!
Resilient people are achievement oriented and dependable.
How many times have you seen ‘pays attention to details’ as a key requirement on job descriptions when you’re out hunting for a job? I bet countless times! This is because the employer wants to know if you possess the resilience trait. Resilient people are known to be careful and meticulous. Nobody wants to give you a job, pay you, and still waste their time supervising your every move.
Achievement oriented people work tirelessly to complete tasks and do a good job. Dependable people are also more self-controlled-they do not give in to distractions. As a result, they realize their full potential. Achievement oriented people push themselves to develop more grit and achieve more success.
They endure and follow through their long-term goals.
‘If you do not know where you are going, any road will lead you there.’ – Lewis Caroll. You do not want to live through life being swayed by other people’s dreams or being controlled by their calendars. People who have no goals, schedules and productive habits are known to say Yes to every request. This will quickly deplete your resilience and you do not want to be that person. Having goals motivates you to work towards them and endure any challenges arising. Goals provide context and framework in which you find meaning and value of your efforts. This cultivates grit over time.
Resilient people are overly optimistic, confident and creative.
As you work towards achieving your dreams, you will often encounter roadblocks. Resilience gives you the strength to get up when you stumble along the way to achieving your goals. This is through having a combination of optimism, creativity and confidence. Stay overly optimistic-always have space in your mind that’s ready for a miracle. Stay creative-work on your creative confidence as you’ll need it every step of the way as you pursue your goals. Resilience is believing that everything will be alright in the end. If it’s not alright, then it’s definitely not the end.
Resilient people are not perfect, they seek excellence.
Resilient people don’t seek perfection. They strive for excellence-excellence is an attitude, not an endgame; while perfection is an inflexible obsession with an outcome. Resilient people constantly seek excellence on a daily basis; that is, they do the very best they can according to their abilities through their habits. As Octavia Butler said ‘First, forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not. Habit is persistence in practice.’ That’s why super successful people keep working on their morning, work and evening habits and routines. They persevere to build the habits and stick to them-that is resilience in practice!
Excellence also allows for failure, disappointment and prioritizes progress. As a result, you develop resilience.
I built my resilience by taking up a daily running exercise routine. I did it (and still do it) for 6 days per week. There are times when my legs felt too stiff and painful to run. Other times, I didn’t have the motivation to run. Other times, my brain kept telling me that I’m punishing myself and so I should quit. Despite all those excuses my body gave me, I run. For 6 days per week. This exercise improved my resilience which has enabled me to push through my writing, work projects and even my other habits without quitting.
You can do the same too to build your resilience. Pick an activity that is hard, requires you to move out of your comfort zone or one that you think you’re incapable of succeeding at. Do it consistently for 21 days or more without fail. Then sit and see how transformational that will make your life. As always, see you on the resilience, successful ladder! 😊